Review and Giveaway: Seating Arrangements by Maggie Shipstead



Recently I had the pleasure of reviewing Maggie Shipstead’s Seating Arrangements as part of the Role Mommy Book Club.
  Maggie Shipstead’s debut novel, “Seating Arrangements,” 

is a cleverly-written, biting satire of New England “old money”
 style families, detailing all the issues that come up over the course
 of a wedding weekend. At its center is Winn Van Meter, an aging 
socialite plagued by everything from the pregnancies of both his
 daughters (not at the same time, thankfully, although Daphne is 
pregnant for her wedding) to his three-year-long quest to join the
 elusive Pequod club. Add to the mix the bevy of relationships he 
has to juggle throughout the weekend, old and new alike, and the 
affair Winn is considering, and you certainly have trouble brewing
 for the whole Van Meter family!

     Shipstead deftly handles the various loves, hates, hookups, breakups, 
and affairs of her characters throughout the novel, and although she
 is handling quite the ensemble, the author manages to keep things 
clear and comprehensible for her audience as far as the characters’
 interactions and desires go. Having said that, though, “Seating Arrangements” 
is far from predictable, and some of its more dramatic moments
 had me gripped in page-turning suspense. 

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A conversation with
Maggie Shipstead
author of
SEATING ARRANGEMENTS
Q: SEATING ARRANGEMENTS is set on a Nantucket-like island off the coast of Cape Cod over a three-day wedding weekend.  What about this elite social setting drew you in?
I grew up in Southern California. My parents are transplanted Midwesterners who don’t like gin or lobster (I know: weird). I didn’t know what a WASP was until I went to college, and then, through friends, distinctly non-friends, and a boyfriend, I got something of a crash course, which was, like most crash courses, intense but patchy and incomplete. I’m not a believer in the old “write what you know” chestnut. I like to write about what I want to know more about.
My first year of grad school, I was kicking around the question of what problems come with privilege and entitlement. For example: if you think all possibilities are rightfully open to you, whether in choosing a job or a mate, then how do you ever decide? How can you ever be content? I hadn’t come up with a way to approach these questions through fiction until a friend of mine had the good grace to be hit by a golf cart while riding his bike on Nantucket. (Naturally, he was wearing tennis whites.) His leg was cut badly enough to need stitches, but the driver of the golf cart wouldn’t apologize. This profoundly unsettled my friend. “You’re supposed to apologize,” he told me on the phone. “Even if something’s not your fault, you apologize so everyone feels better. It’s polite.” He was bewildered, not angry, and, while making sympathetic noises, I started thinking about a character who depends on the people around him to abide by strict rules of behavior and whose fragile world is thrown into disarray when they don’t. I knew I wanted to explore and maybe critique the very, very First World problems of such a character, and I knew I wanted to use a certain crisp, clean, preppy New England vacation aesthetic as a background for behavior that was neither crisp nor clean. So I wrote a very bad short story, and then, two years later, I lived on Nantucket for eight months (let the record show that they did not include the summer months) and wrote the first draft of the novel.
Q: Throughout SEATING ARRANGEMENTS, it often feels like we’re getting voyeuristic glimpses in to the habits of the well-bred and ill-behaved.  Where did you draw inspiration for these characters and their antics?
The characters are all primarily invented, but I accessorized them with bits and pieces borrowed from real people: choice phrases, descriptive details, a delightfully strange first name. Sometimes a name or a line of dialogue is enough to give a character shape, especially at the beginning. Then, the more you write about a character, the more information you have about what he or she would do, think, and feel in any given situation, and their antics start to flow from their personalities. When you go back to the beginning of a draft to revise, you suddenly know this person better than you did when you started and can see all sorts of psychological inconsistencies and moments where the tone wanders. The borrowed bits and pieces get crusted over with layers of invention and eventually lose all connection to that poor real-life source who was foolish enough to talk to a writer at a party.
Q: Patriarch Winn Van Meter is a Harvard graduate who is obsessed with membership in all the right clubs.  As a Harvard graduate yourself, was club membership something people took very seriously?
Harvard has an odd, retro system of social clubs called final clubs that are exclusively male, are not funded or regulated by the university, own spectacular Cambridge real estate, and admit members through a selective process called punching. From what I observed, membership was a matter of absolute and dire seriousness for some guys, but others had no interest in joining a club or joined for reasons that didn’t go much deeper than wanting to have a place to hang out with their friends. A handful of female final clubs have been founded over the past twenty or so years, but because they don’t have the same alumni resources or long traditions as the men’s clubs, they don’t seem to confer the same status or occupy the same place in the collective Harvard imagination. There’s an ongoing debate about the final clubs that will probably never end. Some people think they’re incubating and perpetuating misogyny, racism, economic segregation, homophobia, and other very bad things. Other people argue that club members have special and unique bonds and create opportunities for one another. I don’t begin to have the answers—I think, at the very least, it’s problematic that men control so much of the social space at Harvard, but I also see how, for lots of members, the clubs are harmless fun. Truth be told, I was just glad to be a girl so I didn’t have to worry about getting punched or not.
Q: To the horror of his daughter, to whom he is toasting, Winn’s wedding toast equates marriage with death.  Was this intended as farcical or tragic and have you previously experienced an awkward wedding toast such as this one?
I’ve never been in the audience for quitesuch a downer of a wedding toast, but I would say a solid 30-40% of the ones I have witnessed would qualify as awkward. Most people aren’t entirely comfortable with public speaking, and when you mix in a lot of emotion and alcohol, people can be unpredictable. I’ve seen a mother-of-the-groom catalog the groom’s ex-girlfriends. I’ve seen a maid-of-honor catalog the bride’s ex-boyfriends. I’ve seen a best man rewrite the lyrics of “American Pie” to be an uncomfortable seven minute string of rhyming insults about the groom. I’m generally ambivalent about the prospect of having a wedding of my own, but, if I have one, toasts will be forbidden.
Q: There’s a great scene with an exploding whale.  Does that actually happen?? 
It does! And let that be a lesson to us all: don’t get too close to a decomposing whale carcass. When I was in high school, I read an article in the Los Angeles Times about a scientist who had been killed while performing a necropsy on a whale. Gas built up inside the corpse; it exploded, and this poor man was impaled by a shard of bone. Not surprisingly, the story stuck with me, and when I started drafting Seating Arrangements, I decided early on to include an exploding whale. I didn’t have the plot mapped out at all, but I was strangely confident there would be an opportunity somewhere to work in the whale.
If you search on YouTube, you’ll find some whale explosions, natural and otherwise. One of my favorites is a classic news clip from 1970 about local authorities in Oregon who didn’t know what to do with a dead grey whale and decided to blow it up with dynamite . . . too much dynamite. Huge chunks of blubber rained from the sky and crushed cars and terrified all the spectators who’d come out to see the blast. Whales are just so impossibly large that I think there’s something confrontational and compellingly grotesque about them when they’re dead. You can’t ignore a dead whale; it’s a memento mori on a gigantic scale.
Q: What writers and novels inspire you?
There are too many to list! Day to day, I tend to read a lot of nonfiction and am not great at staying on top of current fiction, but I have a shelf of books at the ready for when I’m having trouble writing. I’ll pick one up and read for a while, and often just a few pages of someone’s marvelous prose will sort of get me in tune. The contents of the shelf rotates, but some standbys are The Great Gatsby (duh), Brideshead Revisited, The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie, Lolita, Housekeeping, To the Lighthouse, Pride and Prejudice, Loving, The Virgin Suicides, The Early Stories by John Updike, Selected Stories by Alice Munro, and The Stories of John Cheever. Lately I’ve been on simultaneous A.S. Byatt and John Le Carré kicks, who write about very different subjects but are both master stylists and are inspiring me to aspire to use the omniscient voice. I’m also reading Michael Chabon’s new book, and I’ve been thinking about how much I love the way the humor and beauty in his work starts on the diction level. He routinely writes sad sentences that are made funny by one unexpected word or vice versa. Reading his fiction reminds me that every word matters.
Q: When did you first realize you loved to write? 
Any day now. Writing is difficult and takes forever, and I’m constantly aware that I should always be looking harder and thinking harder. I don’t dislike the act of writing—and I would feel lost and useless if I stopped doing it—but when things are going well, the experience is more of focus than of enjoyment. I love books, and I do love certain things about the process of constructing characters and stories, like when the solution to some structural problem suddenly becomes clear and I get a boost of momentum. I also love the challenge of inventing characters who seem real to me, and then I love trying to see through their eyes. The opportunity to be someone else is one of the great pleasures of reading, and I’ve been surprised that it’s a pleasure of writing as well.
On a practical level, I started writing fiction in college more or less on a whim and then applied to the Iowa Writers’ Workshop the year after graduation also pretty much on a whim. When I got in, I immediately became much more serious about improving my work, but I can’t remember any moment where I knew I wanted to be a writer. It was more that I slowly figured out I didn’t want to be anything else.
Q: What are you working on next?
I just finished a novel that’s mostly about ballet. It’s all in present tense but covers thirty years. There’s a Soviet defector. There’s Southern California and Paris and New York. There’s some high drama. But, other than that, I’m terrible at describing my own projects and should say no more. Next I’d like to finish a couple short stories I’ve been toying with, one about the Paris catacombs and one about an ocean liner. I like to mix it up.

3decades3kids What Do I Pack For The Disney Magic Weekender Cruise NYC? 7 Day Countdown!

3decades3kids
What Do I Pack 
For The
Disney Magic 
Weekender Cruise
NYC?
7 Day Countdown
From the minute our family booked the Disney Magic out of NYC the question crossed my mind about exactly how I should pack for everyone. Since I am the main packer, it’s pretty much on me to remember everything. 
We are only going on the Disney Magic for the weekend. The cruise sets sail on Friday and returns Sunday morning, so you would think this would be easy, right? But, it’s not for the true Disney fan! 
Of course we are starting off in our matching Disney tees, that’s a must!
Each of us is bringing a backpack that will include paperwork, a bathing suit and pins to trade!
Of course my daughter’s backpack will have her bathing suit, pins to trade and her Cinderella gown. That makes sense, right? You never know when you will have to transform into a princess, so it’s better to be prepared!
We are also packing pirate ears and Jack Sparrow hats for the Pirate Party! 
I think we will bring one casual, but nice outfit for dinner on the last night.
Disney pajamas go without saying and my Eeyore slippers are in the suitcase already, too.
Next Friday this time, we will have already boarded the Disney Magic. I was pleased to find out that even though the Disney Magic sails at about 4pm, you can board the ship beginning at 11am. You can reserve your boarding time online. We chose 11:30am Now, back to the packing! 
Disney List:
Disney earrings
Disney Princess suitcase
Disney Quest backpacks
Disney bows for Emily
Disney ears
Jack Sparrow Hats
Cinderella gown
Glass slippers
Tiara
Princess Bathing Suit for Em
Pink Minnie flip flops
Princess Cover Up
Princess dress for Em
Mickey tees for the guys
Trading pins
Trading Vinylmations
Disney Gift Cards (for the kids)
Disney nightwear
Eeyore slippers
Animal flip-flops
Animal cap
Dusting Body Glitter
Well, I think I remembered all the Disney items I need to pack. I already have a pre-made list of regular trip packing essentials that go on every trip. I’m not worried about packing any of that.
This is our official 7 Day Countdown to the Disney Magic NYC.
Cannot wait to experience the true magic of Disney at sea.
For Official Disney Packing Tips Click here!
Disclosure: All opinions are that of Diane Sullivan/3decades3kids.
Email: ELGeorgia@aol.com

3decades3kids We Are Going On The Disney Magic NYC

3decades3kids
We Are Going On
The Disney Magic
NYC

Anyone that knows our family, knows what huge Disney fans we have been forever.
A summer does not pass by that we do not head to Disney World for a week or two.
But, this year we decided to trade in our August trip ritual for a chance to experience Disney on the high seas! 
Ever since the Disney Cruise Line announced they would be sailing out of NYC our family have been intrigued with the idea. The thought of leaving right from our own area was so appealing we could not resist the idea to test it out. 
Hubby has been on his share of cruises, but for the rest of us, it will be a first.
We recently caught the Disney Magic leaving the port in NYC an the excitement of our family could not be contained! The people on board looked like they had been transported into another world. We could not see much of the top of the ship, but we did hear a lot of cheering and the magical horns announce that the voyage was about to begin.
Our family stood and watched and started our countdown to happiness right there.
For us the decision was pretty easy. We have been Disney Vacation Club members since 1997.
The toughest decision was just to decide that we wanted to book the cruise. Disney Cruise Line took it from there. I called and in less than a half hour  our family of five was booked into a beautiful Deluxe Family Oceanview Stateroom with Verandah.
It was as simple as that! I was pleased to know that our family of five could all be in one room. The verandah was a real plus! Our cruise documents were mailed to our address and we easily checked in online. We also registered our 12 and 5 year old into some activities in advance.
Now all we have to do is PACK! 
From what we have heard there will be a Sail Away Party, a Pirate Party, and a plenty more.
My kids have their pins ready for pin trading, and Em has her Cinderella gown and light up glass slippers ready to go! We are counting down the days!
To find out more about Disney Cruise Line click here.
Disclosure: All opinions are that of 3decades3kids/Diane Sullivan
Email: ELGeorgia@aol.com


3decades3kids Top Ten Summer Hot Spots -August Round-Up!

3decades3kids
2012
Top Ten
Summer 
Hot Spots
August Round-Up!
August 1st is here and we are trying to make the most of August!
Check out our Top Ten Summer Hot Spots!
(in no particular order)
How many have you been to this summer?
There is still plenty of time to check them out and make the most of what’s left of summer!
circleline42.com
http://www.mtlaurelcocokey.com/

SesamePlace.com

http://www.carnival.com/

http://www.poconomanor.com/

http://www2.ncl.com/
http://www.sixflags.com/greatAdventure/index.aspx
http://www.dorneypark.com/
http://summer.mountaincreek.com/
Disclosure: All opinions are that of Diane Sullivan/3decades3kids


3decades3kids Wordless Wednesday: Ghost The Musical On Broadway NYC -Closes August 18th

3decades3kids
Wordless Wednesday:
Ghost 
The Musical
On Broadway
NYC

One of my favorite actors from the show, Lance Roberts/Hospital Ghost/Ensemble
Last night I had the pleasure of seeing Ghost the Musical on Broadway, NYC for the second time.
I loved it the first time when I went with my 21 year old son and I loved it even more last night when I  had he chance to cozy up with my hubby and watch it again.
The show last night was a bit bittersweet since earlier that day an announcement was made that 
the show would close its doors on August 18, 2012.
Honestly, I cannot imagine that a show this wonderful will be so short lived.
If you are in NYC, see this show before August 18th. 
If you loved the movie, you will love the Broadway show, Ghost.
Believe!
Check out my last post about Ghost by clicking here!
PS:
Perfect for Date Night!
Hubby & Me